Know Who You Are !!!

Do the things you used to talk about doing but never did. Know when to let go and when to hold on tight. Stop rushing. Don’t be intimidated to say it like it is. Stop apologizing all the time. Learn to say no, so your yes has some oomph. Spend time with the friends who lift you up, and cut loose the ones who bring you down. Stop giving your power away. Be more concerned with being interested than being interesting. Be old enough to appreciate your freedom, and young enough to enjoy it. Finally, know who you are.

Why Geeks Make Better Boyfriends ;)

In the wide world of dating, there are many options. Do you go for the flashy guy with the smooth smile, or the dude in the corner typing away on his laptop?

I found this list on the best of CraigsList and thought it was worth sharing.

1.) While geeks and nerds may be awkward, they’re well-meaning 9 out of 10 times. That smooth dude with the sly grin and the spider hands? Wonder what HIS intentions are… plus, I’ve never had a geek guy not call me when he said he would. Score major points THERE.

2.) They’re useful. In this tech-savvy world, it’s great to have a b/f who can make your laptop, desktop, and just about anything else that plugs into a wall behave itself.

3.) They’re more romantic than they’re given credit for. Ok true, their idea of romance might be to make up a spiffy web-page with all the reasons why they love you, with links to pics of you and sonnets and such… but hey. It lasts longer than flowers, plus you can show your friends.

4.) Due to their neglected status, there are plenty to choose from. You like ‘em tall and slender? There are plenty of geeks/nerds who are. You like ‘em smaller with more meat on their bones? Got that too.

5.) They’ve got brains. Come on now, how can intelligence be a bad thing?

6.) Most are quite good at remembering dates. Like birthdates and such, especially if they know it’ll make you happy. Due again to their neglected status, they’re more attentive than guys who “have more options”. Plus, with all that down time without a steady girlfriend, they’ll likely have mental lists of all the things they’d love to do once they GOT a girlfriend.

7.) Sex. Yep. Sex. I’m not really familiar with this myself, but I’ve friends who’ve been intimate with geek guys and it’s raves all around. They say a virgin wrote the Kama Sutra… all that time thinking about sex, imagining sex, dreaming about sex, (they are male after all) coupled with a desire to make you happy? Use your imagination.

8.) They’re relatively low-maintenance. Most can be fueled on pizza, Twinkies and Mt Dew. No complicated dinners needed here, so if you’re not the best cook, eh. Can you order a pizza?

9.) Most frequent bars as often as slugs frequent salt mines. You won’t have to worry much about your geek guy getting his “groove” on with club hotties because, frankly, he’ll be too busy rooting around under his computer wondering where that spare cable went. You won’t have to worry about him flirting with other women because, 9 out of 10 times, he’ll zip right by them in a perfect b-line towards the nearest electronics store. I’ve seen this happen.
Me: “Eww. Victoria Secret’s Models… They’re so skinny. How is that feminine? You can see her ribs!”
Geek Guy: “ooooooo…”
Me: “Hey!” *notices he is staring lustfully towards the computer store*
Geek Guy: “What?”
Me: “Never mind"

10.) Although he may not want to go to every outing with you, you can arrange swaps, as in, you’ll go to his Gamer Con dressed as an elf princess if he’ll take you to the ballet. Plus, if he doesn’t want to go someplace with you, you won’t have to worry much about what he’s up to. You’ll probably come home to find him asleep on his keyboard in a sea of Mt. Dew cans with code blinking from the screen. It’s ok. He’s used to this. Just toss a blanket over him and turn out the light.

11.) His friends aren’t jerks. I can’t stress this enough. You’ll more likely get “Omg! A GIRL!! Can I see?!” than “Hey hot stuff back that ass up here and let me get some grub on…” They’re awkward geeks too and will, 9 times out of 10, treat you with the utmost respect and, more than likely, a note of awe. A cute girl picked one of their clan to date? It could happen to them! Hope! Drag some of your single girlfriends over, open up a pack of Mt. Dew, crack open the DnD set and get working. Nothing impresses geek guys more than a girl who can hack-n-slash (well ok maybe if she can code… a geek can dream).

12.) They’re rarely if ever possessive. They trust you, so you can be yourself around them. You like to walk around the house in a ratty t-shirt for comfort? He won’t care. He does too! They won’t get pissy if you don’t wear make-up or don’t want to bother primping your hair. If you gain a few pounds, they won’t try their best to make you feel like crap.

13.) They’re usually very well educated. Physics majors and the like. See #5. You won’t have to listen to him blathering on about his car (ok maybe a little), he’ll have loads of other interesting things to talk about. Politics, world events, how much the chicken burgers down at the local place rock, so long as you douse them in hot sauce…

14.) You’ll almost never have to hear, “Yaw dawg whazzap!!” plop out of their mouths. Unless it’s in jest. They spell properly, use correct punctuation, and are able to tell the difference between the toilet and the floor. They almost never get “wasted”, so you won’t have to worry about coming home to find him and his friends passed out on the floor amidst a pile of beer bottles. Mt. Dew cans, perhaps…

15.) And the final reason why geeks and nerds make great boyfriends: They actually give a damn about you. Not how you look (though that’s a plus), not how skinny you are, not how much make-up you primp yourself up with, but they like you for you. That kind of thing lasts longer than “DaMN baby you got a fine ass!!!” Believe me.

Baby, Its YOU ! Not ME !!!

I don’t know if you do it on purpose,

But it’s been driving me insane.

I don’t even think you realize

How much you frustrate me.

Waiting for you to answer makes me nervous,

So I’m mostly a wreck.

It makes me sick to my stomach.

Then I wonder why I care so much.

But I can’t help myself.

Maybe you’re like a drug.

Addictive.

You’re so amazingly addictive.

My own personal drug.

Don’t you feel special?

No?

Oh. Well, I hear drugs are bad.

If you’d just ask me, I’d say YES.

And I’ve told you more than once.

This sounds vaguely familiar.

Maybe we’ve had this discussion before?

Oh, and don’t call me ‘hun’ if you can’t back it up.

‘Babe’s’ even worse.

And how you always say you want to see me?

Your efforts are pretty shitty for the most part.

I’d appreciate it if you’d stop wasting your breath on me.

I can’t believe I ever thought those words had any meaning.

Do you talk to everyone like that?

Or was I just a special case, babe?

You pull me in

To push me out,

Now I’m confused.

No wonder my friends don’t like you.

They say I should get over you,

That I give you too many chances,

And I do.

It must be the false hope you give me.

They tell me to forget about you,

That you’re no good for me.

And I agree.

So why can’t I stop?

Maybe you suspect that.

Maybe you think it gives you the right

To fuck with my feelings,

And mess with my mind.

But I still miss you something awful,

Although lately, I try to care less.

I’m going to forget about you, I swear.

Don’t think I’m above ignoring your calls.

You say you don’t want to let me down,

But I no longer have any expectations for you.

You make me wait for hours, days

For an answer I never wanted to hear.

But I don’t want you to apologize.

I’m sorry enough for the both of us.

How I wish I never met you,

How I wish I hadn’t obsessed…

Mainly I wish you’d never looked at me.

No, I take that back.

I actually wish I never noticed you looking.

Then I wouldn’t have ever talked to you.

I wish I hadn’t gone to see your stupid show.

That’s where it all began, isn’t it?

Yeah, you know what I mean.

I’m so sick of thinking about you,

I hate thinking things will change.

Who am I trying to fool?

I want this warped mindset to end.

I’m going to stop this just before it begins.

Maybe we’re better off not knowing

What could have been…

I can do better than you,

I know for a fact.

Can you do better than me?

Are you sure about that?

Oh, and by the way…

It’s not me.

It’s you.

Love Is Confusing Right ??

Love is confusing right?

We can never tell when to give up and when to keep trying. 
When to let go and when to hold on. The question is: Is it the love which is confusing? Or the person you’re loving? Relationships can never be perfect. You can never force your partner to be faithful in the same way that a normal relationship should be. What’s important is at the end of the day you find each other side by side and you're happy knowing that he is yours. 
We need to enjoy the relationship while it’s there. Because if you waste your time in doubts and insecurities, you’ll never appreciate how wonderful it is to fall in love


Remember: To get hurt is a fact that we bargain when we choose to love

Don't give Up! Your Dreams May Be Closer Than You Think!

There may be times when you feel

as if you have taken a million steps towards

your dreams, and acted on your plans, only to find

yourself in the same place that you began from.

At times like this, you must not give up.

You must continue on. Though you may feel

lost, bewildered, and alone, continue to believe

in yourself. Do not allow discouragement and

doubt to blur your vision and wash away

your dreams. Visualize your way beyond the

detours, standstills, and obstacles.

You will realize your dreams. You have

worked hard and taken so many productive

steps in a positive direction that you are bound

to succeed. Whatever the hurt of the moment

may be, it will pass. Tomorrow is always a

new dawn. Today, you must pause, rest, catch

your breath, and then look ahead. Each step

will bring you closer to your dreams. The

rainbows and the love that you deserve are in

sight. Happiness is just around the next turn.

Different Rules !!!

It’s important to know, in any relationship, that different people have different rules according to which they judge if the relationship is good or not. These basic rules have everything to do with  a person’s past experience, childhood, and general conception of what a relationship is, and what love is. Decades ago, men found it difficult to tell their partner that they loved them. For some women, this was part of the “way things should be”, and they did not question it – for others, it was heartbreakingly insufficient. For these distraught women, they could not feel loved, until they were told that they were loved – this was a rule that they lived by...

Boundaries !!!!

“At some point you have to make a decision. Boundaries don’t keep other people out – they fence you in.

So, you can waste your life drawing lines OR you can live your life by crossing them.”