Somehow, someway it finally hit me: love isn't what someone can give you or how they can make you feel. Love is YOU. You yourself are the love that you are looking for.
At the end of the day, it's simple: we all want love.
We want to fall in love with someone who loves us with every fiber in their being. We want to be swept off of our feet. We want to build a forever with someone, BUT, first comes loving ourselves with every fiber inour being. First comes sweeping ourselves off of our feet by treating ourselves well and doing the things we want to do. First comes building a life for ourselves that we can be proud of because it is our own.
Single, taken, looking, engaged, married, or somewhere in between - regardless of your relationship status, you are the only love that you need.
However, sometimes, it's hard to find the love within yourself. It's easier to give your love away, even to those who are not deserving of it. Self-love falls by the wayside because it's work, and who wants to do work?
Well, if you want to find love you have to put in the work, and here's how:
Get up, go look in the mirror, and take a long, hard look at the person staring back at you. Do you like who you see? Do you love the person in front of you?
Be honest . . .
If you want love in your life, you have to be happy with yourself first!
#LifeLessonLearned: You can't expect to find the person you love if you don't love yourself first: deeply, truly, fully.
You may meet the person you're meant to be with. You may find someone who you love deeply + truly yet your relationship will never fully manifest itself if you don't love yourself deeply + truly first.
Love your life. Love yourself. Love everything that you do. Find love every time you look in the mirror. Find love by cooking yourself a yummy meal, by taking yourself out shopping, by celebrating your daily victories, by blasting your favorite song and dancing in your room, by doing something you've always wanted to do, by working hard to make a better future for yourself.
This is exactly what I'm doing. No more teary mornings using up my vacation time and stealing my joy. I may not have been chosen by someone else (yet), but that it is more than okay because:
I am choosing me.
I am loving myself my authentic self with everything that I have. I'm doing what I need to do to make myself happy, because I'll never be happy with someone else if I'm not happy with myself first.
I'm treating myself to the joys of life - dressing well, eating well, living well. I'm putting in the time to create + build something for MYSELF. And you know what, I've never felt better. I needed that breakdown. I needed the transition from taken and incomplete to single and fulfilled. At the end of the day, I needed me.
Love is you - all day, every day. You are more than enough. Make yourself happy and watch as the love in your life grows.
