TRY :)

A couple hundred years ago Benjamin Franklin shared with the world the secret of his success. Never leave that 'til tomorrow, which you can do today. This is the man who discovered electricity; you'd think we'd pay more attention to what he had to say. I don't know why we put things off, but if I had to guess it has a lot to do with fear. Fear of failure, fear of pain, fear of rejection. Sometimes the fear if just of making a decision. Because... What if you're wrong? What if you make a mistake you can't undo? Whatever it is we're afraid of, one thing holds true: That by the time the pain of not doing the thing gets worse than the fear of doing it, it can feel like we're carrying around a giant tumor. And you thought I was speaking metaphorically... 'The early bird catches the worm.' 'A stitch in time saves nine.' 'He who hesitates is lost.' We can't pretend we haven't been told. We've all heard the proverbs, heard the philosophers, heard our grandparents warning us about wasted time; heard the damn poets urging us to seize the day. Still, sometimes we have to see for ourselves. We have to make our own mistakes. We have to learn our own lessons. We have to sweep today's possibility under tomorrow's rug until we can't anymore. Until we finally understand for ourselves what Benjamin Franklin meant. That knowing is better than wondering. That waking is better than sleeping. And that even the biggest failure, even the worst most intractable mistake, beats the hell out of not trying.

Broken ???

A friend emailed this to me. :)

You definitely know it’s time to stop brooding over your broken heart when you start to notice that your friends are ditching you (for some odd reason, analyzing the “break-up hug” for 3 hours a pop seems boring to them). This grieving process is perfectly natural, and everyone has their own way of getting over a broken heart.

STAGE 1: THE REALIZATION – Lately you notice that things have been a bit rocky between you and your partner, well rocky may be an understatement. TREMULOUS, ROLLER COASTER RIDE FROM HELL is much more like it. Somehow, the sparks that were flying at the beginning of the relationship have now turned into an uncontrollable forest fire. Ultimately, you need to muster up the courage and face the fact that things aren’t working.

STAGE 2: THE ACTUAL REALIZATION – Okay, so, what happens now when you realize you can never call them again for a quick cup of coffee… or, at all? What if you start to miss them? You might start to think maybe it wasn’t a good idea to break up after all. And then you have an epiphany. Of course it was a good idea — the relationship wasn’t working out. Just keep reminding yourself why you broke up in the first place and don’t call them.

STAGE 3: THE CRAPPY PART - Once you realize that your life will be different this is what I call the crap-pi-phany (like epiphany). You go through the phase of listening to songs that remind you of them. Life may seem over, but trust me, time heals all wounds and even a broken heart will mend over time.

STAGE 4: THE RAGE - Bitterness. You list all their annoying traits that you once thought was actually cute. You get up of the sofa and dress to impress. Now that you look good and feel good you can actually say and believe, “if they don’t want me, that’s their problem, not mine.” Over time you start missing them less and less.

STAGE 5: THE CRUSH - Over time you’ll begin to realize that your ex isn’t the only one in the world. Wow! There are some damn fine peeps in this city. Even if you’re not ready to start an intense relationship with somebody else, get out there and start having fun again. You’ll get over your ex a lot faster if you stop moping around.

STAGE 6: FREEDOM! -You haven’t thought about your ex in days, and BAM, there they are strolling down the street with someone else, AND your stomach doesn’t lurch as if there’s a gerbil on steroids lodged in your intestines, your face doesn’t even turn bright red. When you say hi, your ex looks more uncomfortable than you. You smile, because now you know you are finally free and ready to open up and love again.

This concludes my analysis of the trauma of a broken heart. Although some stages may be longer than others, the important thing to remember is, you WILL get over this. Over time the pain will heal and you’ll be ready to let others in and share your wonderful self with them. If they break your heart, learn, feel (because it’s important to be human), and live again. 

He Will.....

A friend sent this to me in an email and I thought it was too cute not to share.

A real man is a woman’s best friend. He will never stand her up and never let her down. He will reassure her when she feels insecure and comfort her after a bad day. He will inspire her to do things she never thought she could do, to live without fear and forget regret. He will enable her to express her deepest emotions and give in to her most intimate desires. He will make sure she always feels as though she’s the most beautiful woman in the room and will enable her to be confident, sexy, seductive, and invincible.

“A man out there is meant to be the love of your life, your best friend, the one you can tell your dreams to. He’ll brush the hair out of your eyes. Send you flowers when you least expect it. He’ll stare at you during the movies, even though he paid $8 to see it. He’ll call to say goodnight or just cause he is missing you. He’ll look in your eyes and tell you, you’re the most beautiful girl in the world, and for the first time in your life, you’ll believe it.”

- Nicholas Sparks -

Love Disaster !!!

If you never met me, I wouldn’t be going through this. But since you met me, I’ve changed for the better.

So is knowing you a disaster or a blessing? I guess it has done the bad and the good, because when I met you, I fell in love. You led me to the highest of heavens then you led me to the depths of hell. You brought me love and happiness then you brought me sadness and despair.

You showed me care with love and you showed me ignorance with annoyance. You said ” Please give me a chance “ and then you said ” Just give it up”.

What do you expect? For me to endure all this? All this hurt, pain and cruelty? All this Disaster? No. I won’t even glance at you with my eyes. I will only walk away with a cold heart.

Because you taught me how to ‘ IGNORE YOU ‘
Because you taught me how to ‘ GIVE UP ON YOU ‘
Because you taught me how to ‘ TREAT YOU A LIKE STRANGER ‘
Because you taught me how to ‘ BE ANNOYED BY YOU ‘ 

Never Loose Hope :)

I can honestly say there is nothing more wonderful than having someone to love and the feeling of being loved in return. Our hearts may have been broken but we all learn how to fly again, soar high and to be brave, not fearing anything. We began to see the beauty in the world and there is so much joy in life… unless we stop hoping for love.

For All Of You.. HeartBroken !

This is for all of the people how have been broken but have been strong enough to let go. For the people who have hurt so badly that they felt they could never love again, but kept their head up. For those who feel like going back to their old lover would put all the pieces back where they belong and everything would fit, but accept the cold hard truth instead. For the people that learn from their mistakes and never stop moving forward, even when they take two steps back. For the people that wish loneliness wasn’t a part of them, but put up with it anyhow. For the people that are okay with taking up all of the room in the bed, even if sometimes it feels a little empty. For the people who wake up in the morning with no missed calls, but smile anyway. For the people that periodically miss the past, but are so much more excited for the future. For the people that have wounds still healing. For the people that have so much tied to their past relationship, but break those chains to start fresh. For the people that want to look back so badly, but focus on the road ahead. For the people that pick up the phone so tempted to call, but keep their dignity in tact instead. For the people that never wanted to let go, but had to. For the people that still believe in love even after all of the hurt their heart has endured. For all the people that gave up not because they were weak, but because most times it’s better just to let go.

This one is for you. We’ll get our happy ending someday.

Love - Game

The plain truth is that life is a crazy, crazy journey and you just never know where it will lead you. Likewise, people, minds, relationships and lives change every second of every day and sometimes those changes are just too much for the heart to handle. I have learned over the past few months to look at things through kinder eyes and to realise that everything happens for a reason.

A wise friend once told me that love is a crapshoot and a scary game, but one that is too sweet to resist. Each of us can make a choice in life and in love: you can either sit on the sidelines and watch others play the scary and wonderful game of love without you, or you can join in and give it a go. Sure, you’re bound to get scraped, bruised, hurt and damaged, but isn’t the end result worth the risk?

Happy Today :)

Remember that scene from the beach when Leonardo di Caprio screamed describing his fight with the shark “I WILL NOT DIE TODAY!”?

This is exactly how intense I feel with a little twist.

I WILL NOT BE SAD TODAY.

Today I decided to have fun. No not just fun. I will be happy, content and satisfied. I will have a sincere smile on my face. I will focus on the now. On this very instance. On how everything IS OKAY. I will not divert my thoughts on how things were nor how things might turn to be. I will be happy today.

No.

I am happy today. Because I choose to be. Because I decide to be.  

I am happy today, and I hope you are too.

What Else Matters ??

“You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before, she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She’s not perfect – you aren’t either, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break — her heart. So don’t hurt her, don’t change her, don’t analyze and don’t expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she’s not there.”

-Bob Marley-