The Best Is In You !!!

Promise yourself to be strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind; to talk health, happiness and prosperity to every person you meet; to make all your friends feel that there is something worthwhile in them; to look at the sunny side of everything and to make your optimism come true, to think only of the best, to work only for the best, and to expect only the best; to be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own; to forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future; to wear a cheerful expression at all times and give a smile to every living creature you meet; to give so much time to improving yourself that you have no time to criticize others; to be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble; to think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud word, but in great deeds; to live in the faith that the whole world is on your side, so long as you are true to the best that is in you. 

Love Is A Funny Thing !!!

Love is a funny thing. You expect it to be easy. You expect it to be a world of roses and laughs and perfect moments that you find only in movies. You expect him to always say the right thing, and always know exactly how you feel, or exactly how to react to it. You expect him to calm you down when you’re yelling or to chase you when you run away. You expect so much that you feel entirely, utterly defeated when something doesn’t exactly match up with all your plans. But that’s the thing. Love isn’t a plan. It doesn’t have a certain beginning and it certainly has no end or visible finish line to those deeply in it.

Love is so incredibly messy. People around you can’t comprehend why you do the things you do, or why you fight so hard for something that seems to cause you so much pain, because simply, they can’t see. They can’t see the invisible ring of insanity that surrounds you when you’re in love. It’s inconvenient and painful and devastating at times, but we can’t live without it. What you don’t learn is how hard love is. How much work it takes. How much of ourselves we have to put into it. How it isn’t worth it until we are complete and utter idiots about it.

Love isn’t him calming you down when you yell. It’s him yelling, just as loud, just as hard, right back at you, right in your face to wake you up and to keep you grounded. It isn’t him bringing you roses everyday or cute things that make your relationship appear more presentable. 

It’s after a long fight, that drains the life and bones right out of you both, and yet him showing up at your door the next morning anyway. It’s not him saying all the right things or knowing exactly how to handle you. So no, it’s not her caressing your hair and telling you that everything’s going to be alright. It’s him standing there, admitting he’s just as scared as you are. You have to remember that with love, you’re not the only one involved. You’ve unknowingly put your life, your heart into the palms of another person’s hand and said “here. Do what you will. Mash it into mince meat. Or forget I ever handed it to you. As long as you have it.”

It makes us crazy. It makes us invisible and it erases all the lines that we shouldn’t cross. Because love isn’t about fencing ourselves in; feeling safe, feeling sure about the future. It’s about scaring the crap out of every nerve in our body, but pushing forward anyway. Because all the fighting and all the tears and all the uncertainty is worth it. And it’s a lot better than being 100% happy without someone to show us that there is a world of difference between feeling ‘happy’ and feeling whole.

Life is a challenge, and so is love. Things never come easy in life; if they do, memories are rare, suffering won’t get you through the tough times, there’s nothing to look back on. There’s no mistakes that you learn from. In the end, it’s all worth it.

Just Let Go !!!

I don’t know why we all hang on to something we know we’re better off letting go. Its like we’re scared to lose what we really don’t have. Some of us say we’d rather have that something than nothing, but the truth is to have it halfway is harder than not having it at all. 
Well frankly speaking in my opinion Every girl deserves to be with someone who appreciates them, and who gets how funny, sweet, amazing, adorable and sexy they are, you know? Someone who wakes up every morning thinking, “oh my God, I’m with her.”
If that man don't feel that much about you he really doesn't deserve you.. so better let go rather than holding on to someone who isn't worth it !!!
The Smartest Thing A Woman Can Learn Is To Never Need A Man =)

Convincing Myself !

The hardest thing in the world is convincing myself I don’t care, when in all actuality, I know that deep inside I really do.

 I show attitude like nothing matters and I Don't Care, Whatever !!I  just hope that someday you will actually understand what I have been going through, It actually do hurts, me not showing it doesn't mean I am over you, it means I am Stronger, Strong enough to let go !!!

It’s hard to get over people, I mean really get over them. You can start to have feelings for other people, but it doesn’t mean you’re over them, it just means you’re moving on.

You Lost Me !!!

You threw her away. You threw away the girl that would do anything and everything for you. You threw away the girl that gave her all and trusted you with it. You threw away the girl that put her whole self into being there for you. You threw away the girl that shut every other person out in her life because she told herself she couldn’t trust them. You threw way the girl that sees the entire world in you. You threw away the girl that went through hell just to be with you. You threw away the girl that was willing to wait as long as it took until she could call you hers. You threw away that girl that still wanted you even when you treated her as if she was nothing. You threw away the girl that spent months hoping you two could be together eventually. You threw away the girl that stays up at night, wondering if you’re okay. You threw away the girl that continued to do so much for you even though she got nothing in return. You threw away the girl that didn’t listen to the bad things that others said about you. You threw away the girl that would do anything in the world for you. You threw her away. And guess what? You lost her.

Know Who You Are !!!

Do the things you used to talk about doing but never did. Know when to let go and when to hold on tight. Stop rushing. Don’t be intimidated to say it like it is. Stop apologizing all the time. Learn to say no, so your yes has some oomph. Spend time with the friends who lift you up, and cut loose the ones who bring you down. Stop giving your power away. Be more concerned with being interested than being interesting. Be old enough to appreciate your freedom, and young enough to enjoy it. Finally, know who you are.

Why Geeks Make Better Boyfriends ;)

In the wide world of dating, there are many options. Do you go for the flashy guy with the smooth smile, or the dude in the corner typing away on his laptop?

I found this list on the best of CraigsList and thought it was worth sharing.

1.) While geeks and nerds may be awkward, they’re well-meaning 9 out of 10 times. That smooth dude with the sly grin and the spider hands? Wonder what HIS intentions are… plus, I’ve never had a geek guy not call me when he said he would. Score major points THERE.

2.) They’re useful. In this tech-savvy world, it’s great to have a b/f who can make your laptop, desktop, and just about anything else that plugs into a wall behave itself.

3.) They’re more romantic than they’re given credit for. Ok true, their idea of romance might be to make up a spiffy web-page with all the reasons why they love you, with links to pics of you and sonnets and such… but hey. It lasts longer than flowers, plus you can show your friends.

4.) Due to their neglected status, there are plenty to choose from. You like ‘em tall and slender? There are plenty of geeks/nerds who are. You like ‘em smaller with more meat on their bones? Got that too.

5.) They’ve got brains. Come on now, how can intelligence be a bad thing?

6.) Most are quite good at remembering dates. Like birthdates and such, especially if they know it’ll make you happy. Due again to their neglected status, they’re more attentive than guys who “have more options”. Plus, with all that down time without a steady girlfriend, they’ll likely have mental lists of all the things they’d love to do once they GOT a girlfriend.

7.) Sex. Yep. Sex. I’m not really familiar with this myself, but I’ve friends who’ve been intimate with geek guys and it’s raves all around. They say a virgin wrote the Kama Sutra… all that time thinking about sex, imagining sex, dreaming about sex, (they are male after all) coupled with a desire to make you happy? Use your imagination.

8.) They’re relatively low-maintenance. Most can be fueled on pizza, Twinkies and Mt Dew. No complicated dinners needed here, so if you’re not the best cook, eh. Can you order a pizza?

9.) Most frequent bars as often as slugs frequent salt mines. You won’t have to worry much about your geek guy getting his “groove” on with club hotties because, frankly, he’ll be too busy rooting around under his computer wondering where that spare cable went. You won’t have to worry about him flirting with other women because, 9 out of 10 times, he’ll zip right by them in a perfect b-line towards the nearest electronics store. I’ve seen this happen.
Me: “Eww. Victoria Secret’s Models… They’re so skinny. How is that feminine? You can see her ribs!”
Geek Guy: “ooooooo…”
Me: “Hey!” *notices he is staring lustfully towards the computer store*
Geek Guy: “What?”
Me: “Never mind"

10.) Although he may not want to go to every outing with you, you can arrange swaps, as in, you’ll go to his Gamer Con dressed as an elf princess if he’ll take you to the ballet. Plus, if he doesn’t want to go someplace with you, you won’t have to worry much about what he’s up to. You’ll probably come home to find him asleep on his keyboard in a sea of Mt. Dew cans with code blinking from the screen. It’s ok. He’s used to this. Just toss a blanket over him and turn out the light.

11.) His friends aren’t jerks. I can’t stress this enough. You’ll more likely get “Omg! A GIRL!! Can I see?!” than “Hey hot stuff back that ass up here and let me get some grub on…” They’re awkward geeks too and will, 9 times out of 10, treat you with the utmost respect and, more than likely, a note of awe. A cute girl picked one of their clan to date? It could happen to them! Hope! Drag some of your single girlfriends over, open up a pack of Mt. Dew, crack open the DnD set and get working. Nothing impresses geek guys more than a girl who can hack-n-slash (well ok maybe if she can code… a geek can dream).

12.) They’re rarely if ever possessive. They trust you, so you can be yourself around them. You like to walk around the house in a ratty t-shirt for comfort? He won’t care. He does too! They won’t get pissy if you don’t wear make-up or don’t want to bother primping your hair. If you gain a few pounds, they won’t try their best to make you feel like crap.

13.) They’re usually very well educated. Physics majors and the like. See #5. You won’t have to listen to him blathering on about his car (ok maybe a little), he’ll have loads of other interesting things to talk about. Politics, world events, how much the chicken burgers down at the local place rock, so long as you douse them in hot sauce…

14.) You’ll almost never have to hear, “Yaw dawg whazzap!!” plop out of their mouths. Unless it’s in jest. They spell properly, use correct punctuation, and are able to tell the difference between the toilet and the floor. They almost never get “wasted”, so you won’t have to worry about coming home to find him and his friends passed out on the floor amidst a pile of beer bottles. Mt. Dew cans, perhaps…

15.) And the final reason why geeks and nerds make great boyfriends: They actually give a damn about you. Not how you look (though that’s a plus), not how skinny you are, not how much make-up you primp yourself up with, but they like you for you. That kind of thing lasts longer than “DaMN baby you got a fine ass!!!” Believe me.

Baby, Its YOU ! Not ME !!!

I don’t know if you do it on purpose,

But it’s been driving me insane.

I don’t even think you realize

How much you frustrate me.

Waiting for you to answer makes me nervous,

So I’m mostly a wreck.

It makes me sick to my stomach.

Then I wonder why I care so much.

But I can’t help myself.

Maybe you’re like a drug.

Addictive.

You’re so amazingly addictive.

My own personal drug.

Don’t you feel special?

No?

Oh. Well, I hear drugs are bad.

If you’d just ask me, I’d say YES.

And I’ve told you more than once.

This sounds vaguely familiar.

Maybe we’ve had this discussion before?

Oh, and don’t call me ‘hun’ if you can’t back it up.

‘Babe’s’ even worse.

And how you always say you want to see me?

Your efforts are pretty shitty for the most part.

I’d appreciate it if you’d stop wasting your breath on me.

I can’t believe I ever thought those words had any meaning.

Do you talk to everyone like that?

Or was I just a special case, babe?

You pull me in

To push me out,

Now I’m confused.

No wonder my friends don’t like you.

They say I should get over you,

That I give you too many chances,

And I do.

It must be the false hope you give me.

They tell me to forget about you,

That you’re no good for me.

And I agree.

So why can’t I stop?

Maybe you suspect that.

Maybe you think it gives you the right

To fuck with my feelings,

And mess with my mind.

But I still miss you something awful,

Although lately, I try to care less.

I’m going to forget about you, I swear.

Don’t think I’m above ignoring your calls.

You say you don’t want to let me down,

But I no longer have any expectations for you.

You make me wait for hours, days

For an answer I never wanted to hear.

But I don’t want you to apologize.

I’m sorry enough for the both of us.

How I wish I never met you,

How I wish I hadn’t obsessed…

Mainly I wish you’d never looked at me.

No, I take that back.

I actually wish I never noticed you looking.

Then I wouldn’t have ever talked to you.

I wish I hadn’t gone to see your stupid show.

That’s where it all began, isn’t it?

Yeah, you know what I mean.

I’m so sick of thinking about you,

I hate thinking things will change.

Who am I trying to fool?

I want this warped mindset to end.

I’m going to stop this just before it begins.

Maybe we’re better off not knowing

What could have been…

I can do better than you,

I know for a fact.

Can you do better than me?

Are you sure about that?

Oh, and by the way…

It’s not me.

It’s you.

Love Is Confusing Right ??

Love is confusing right?

We can never tell when to give up and when to keep trying. 
When to let go and when to hold on. The question is: Is it the love which is confusing? Or the person you’re loving? Relationships can never be perfect. You can never force your partner to be faithful in the same way that a normal relationship should be. What’s important is at the end of the day you find each other side by side and you're happy knowing that he is yours. 
We need to enjoy the relationship while it’s there. Because if you waste your time in doubts and insecurities, you’ll never appreciate how wonderful it is to fall in love


Remember: To get hurt is a fact that we bargain when we choose to love

Don't give Up! Your Dreams May Be Closer Than You Think!

There may be times when you feel

as if you have taken a million steps towards

your dreams, and acted on your plans, only to find

yourself in the same place that you began from.

At times like this, you must not give up.

You must continue on. Though you may feel

lost, bewildered, and alone, continue to believe

in yourself. Do not allow discouragement and

doubt to blur your vision and wash away

your dreams. Visualize your way beyond the

detours, standstills, and obstacles.

You will realize your dreams. You have

worked hard and taken so many productive

steps in a positive direction that you are bound

to succeed. Whatever the hurt of the moment

may be, it will pass. Tomorrow is always a

new dawn. Today, you must pause, rest, catch

your breath, and then look ahead. Each step

will bring you closer to your dreams. The

rainbows and the love that you deserve are in

sight. Happiness is just around the next turn.

Different Rules !!!

It’s important to know, in any relationship, that different people have different rules according to which they judge if the relationship is good or not. These basic rules have everything to do with  a person’s past experience, childhood, and general conception of what a relationship is, and what love is. Decades ago, men found it difficult to tell their partner that they loved them. For some women, this was part of the “way things should be”, and they did not question it – for others, it was heartbreakingly insufficient. For these distraught women, they could not feel loved, until they were told that they were loved – this was a rule that they lived by...

Boundaries !!!!

“At some point you have to make a decision. Boundaries don’t keep other people out – they fence you in.

So, you can waste your life drawing lines OR you can live your life by crossing them.”